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    What makes men cheat? Natasha Caruana signed up to a cheaters' dating agency to find out

    The Married Man.


    One woman's 80 dates with married men - Telegraph

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    Interesting article. Especially the part about guys who cheat for emotional support.

    Speaking as a 56 year old guy who was married for nearly 26 years and has been single for the past 8 years and who did not cheat but considered it a few times, I find the article to be pretty realistic.

    My late wife suffered from bi-polar disorder her entire life, and left this life in the usual way for such persons.

    There was very little sex during our marriage, I missed it a lot. But to an even greater degree, I missed the emotional connection. It just wasn't there; it seemed that she was too busy battling her demons to pay much attention to me.

    One thing that I felt was missing in the article was the love angle. Love (or a persons perception of it) is the most powerful force ever. In a way, it can even alter time. I think a lot of guys who cheat are in love with their wives, but at the same time, feel unmet needs. Sometimes physical needs, sometimes emotional, most of the time both.

    And even worse, if said guy brings up his wants/needs/desires to his wife, he will almost always feel attacked during the course of the conversation. This is not usually the intent of the wife, it's more like the perception of the husband.

    The sad part is that if each person would see things from the others perspective, the issues would very likely be discussed in such a way to bring about positive change by both persons.

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      Re: Why men cheat on their wives

      Really great feedback!

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        Re: Why men cheat on their wives

        Originally posted by CaliforniaAdventurer View Post
        Really great feedback!
        Thanks!

        Straight from the heart.......

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        • #5
          Re: Why men cheat on their wives

          My husband once paid me the greatest compliment a husband can make to his wife, when he said.

          "I never, did not want to come home".

          Men who cheat on their wives obviously don't feel the same way.
          BarbaraAnn

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            Re: Why men cheat on their wives

            Originally posted by Barbaraann View Post
            My husband once paid me the greatest compliment a husband can make to his wife, when he said.

            "I never, did not want to come home".

            Men who cheat on their wives obviously don't feel the same way.
            That's the truth!

            I can't say the same thing. My late wife, being bi-polar, wasn't exactly the most stable thing on the planet. Some mornings she would be pretty much a basket case, and I really didn't want to come home to that or even worse. But often, if she wasn't feeling well in the morning, she would be fine when I got home. Other times........

            It worked the other way too. It was the worst when she would be ok in the morning, but not so good when I got home.

            So yes, I'd agree that cheaters often don't want to come home. And guys who enjoy their home life have far less reason to cheat.

            But we need to remember though, it takes both spouses to make a desirable home life. One cannot do it on their own.

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              Re: Why men cheat on their wives

              Data has shown - repeatedly - that monogamy is not a natural state for humans. What is puzzling is why we expect, demand, and build into institutions an ideal that is rarely achieved. Two of the basic needs are to love and be loved, and surprisingly for many - variety. Those are a bad combination when neither of those needs are being met.

              Also remember - "cheating" can only occur when one or both parties in a relationship have pledged to be monogamous. Without setting up nearly impossible conditions to meet in said relationship - "cheating" cannot occur. Simply put, if you want to eliminate "cheating" you must not expect monogamy.





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                Re: Why men cheat on their wives

                It's up to the couple to decide, do I want to be in a monogamous relationship? If so, he or she needs a partner who wants the same thing.

                Cheating is when both agree to monogamy and then one person doesn't hold up their end of the bargain.

                Agreeing to an 'open relationship' from the beginning is not cheating.

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                  Re: Why men cheat on their wives

                  Cheating Signs: 3 Ways To Identify A Cheater

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                    Re: Why men cheat on their wives

                    Why Women Cheat (VIDEO) - Huffington Post

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                      Re: Why men cheat on their wives

                      How to Catch a Cheating Spouse (VIDEO) - Huffington Post

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                      • #12
                        Re: Why men cheat on their wives

                        OK So I think now we've got ALL our bases covered

                        Vicki Larson: What's So Wrong With An Open Marriage?

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