Divorced micechatters Come on in....

[Crazy Legs]

Well here we can chat about our Divorces, help each other get through Divorce.

Its not fun alone.

[Disneykat]

I'm here....I'm here!!!!

[dshimel]

Shouldn't this be in the lounge?

2 divorces in the last 3 years for me. First marriage was 15 years. Second was 15 months.

[TDLFAN]

Oh dear...I hope the next one is not 15 hours...

I know that if i continue logging in to Micechat as much as I do...I too will be served with divorce papers soon enough!!! BTW...Looking forwards to meet you Micechatters at WDW on the 23rd!!

[Crazy Legs]

Oh dear...I hope the next one is not 15 hours...

I know that if i continue logging in to Micechat as much as I do...I too will be served with divorce papers soon enough!!! BTW...Looking forwards to meet you Micechatters at WDW on the 23rd!!

LOL 15 Hours

[Disneykat]

2 divorces in 5 yrs

1st: 3 and a half yrs (he left 4 months before graduating from Chiropractic school)

2nd: married him after knowing him 5 weeks. Lasted 12 months

[Crazy Legs]

Well I got married Feb. 29th 2004.

Married for 34 Days .

He left me after i had my injury on March 17, 2004.Then he left me on April 3rd, 2004.So wow 34 Days.

We are now still going through Divorce. I need to call my Lawyer in the morning to see about court date.There is so much he is asking me for and I am not the one who left.

[Groomer]

do I count??? havent seen the **&%$ since 1998.. moved to Ky to escape his nutty a$$ havent gotten rid of him yet cause im too poor and hes too stupid to file but im working on rectifying that little oversight!!

[dshimel]

2nd: married him after knowing him 5 weeks. Lasted 12 months

First wife I was living with after about a month. Couldn't get marreid until her divorce from her first husbad was complete.... Yes, she was split up before we met. No I didn't "break them up". Did I mention she was pregnant with a 3rd man's baby when we started dating? She let me think the baby was mine for the first 5 months of the pregnancy until I figured out the dates didn't match to when we started fooling around. No, the bio-dad wasn't the man she was cheating with on her first husband with. That was yet another man.....

That was a LONG and UNHEALTHY marriage there.... The daughter didn't know I wasn't her bio-dad until we got divorced. I agreed to pay child support for her even though I wasn't the bio-dad. She was my duaghter for all those years afterall. She hasn't talked to me in over a year... since I got remarried.



Second wife I was dating for about two and a half weeks before we got engaged. Rebound mistake? All new tragedy? No way to know.

[Disneyphile]

Met the ex in '92 - worked at the Disney Store with him. Then we got married in '95 and divorced in '97. He walked out when I declared that I wanted my own bank account.

The was really controlling, ruled by his chauvenistic best friend, and was obsessed with money, and constantly whined about us not owning a brand new house at the age of 22, and pretty much blamed me for that. He also constantly went to singles' bars and strip clubs with his best friend, telling me, "Well, those women are nice to look at." By the time he left, my self-esteem had already packed up and gone.

He remarried a year later to an older woman who already owned a home (so he got what he wanted). He got to make a lot of money and buy an even bigger house, thanks to his best friend's construction company. That company got shut down and sued last year, causing them severe personal financial loss. Needless to say, that evening when I got the news about the company's demise, I went and had a Coke and a smile. I love how the universe takes care of itself.

So, tip to folks out there - Disney should NOT be the only thing in common with your SO.

My current honey and I have been living together for over a year, and it's quite blissful. We hardly ever argue, and if we do, it lasts for maybe a minute. We're also each others' bestest friends and do everything together. He wasn't a Disney geek when we met, but we had SO much other stuff in common, that his "conversion" to Disney just came naturally. And I think it's safe to say that it'll be my second and final marriage when the time comes.

[Mr.DooDah]

I used to love her but I had to kill her... she's burried here in my back yard...
-GnR

[Never Grow Up]

My divorce has been final for 45 days today!
Yes, at one time I was married to a woman.
For some reason, it didn't work for me, being gay and all....

Don't ask...long sordid story!!!

[Never Grow Up]

By the time he left, my self-esteem had already packed up and gone.

Why do we let these kind of people get to us!?!?! I went throught the same thing.

Let me just say, Disneyphile, I think you are a very beautiful woman, inside and out. And I hardly know you!

[Cousin Orville]

I can't believe you guys. I never KNEW happiness till I got married.. but now it's too late.

[Never Grow Up]

I can't believe you guys. I never KNEW happiness till I got married.. but now it's too late.

I am in an extremely happy relationship now. But I will tell you there is no he** like a bad marriage!!

[Disneyphile]

But I will tell you there is no he** like a bad marriage!!

Amen, brutha!!

[Tui]

Why do we let these kind of people get to us!?!?! I went throught the same thing.

Let me just say, Disneyphile, I think you are a very beautiful woman, inside and out. And I hardly know you!

I've never been married or divorced, thank God on both counts. But this reminded me of something my host mum told me last night.

If you ask someone what makes them who they are, they'll probably start listing friends, jobs, partners, interests etc. etc. and this is where most humans are flawed because if you let the things around who form who you are, the minute one of those things leave your life you just fall apart.

If you are who you are no matter what/who you have if someone/something leaves, you are still you. You just move on and find something new.

I'm not sure if it came out right, but it really made a lot of sense to me

[dshimel]

If you are who you are no matter what/who you have if someone/something leaves, you are still you. You just move on and find something new.

I'm not sure if it came out right, but it really made a lot of sense to me

I understand the sentiment. However, I'm not sure it makes life as enjoyable. You can "be who you are", not letting yourself be altered by your friends or loved ones, not getting attached to stuff, not treating anything as special... And all you'll have is yourself. And what if you're a jerk... Then all you have is a jerk.

I'd rather have friends and loved ones to get attached to. Stuff to think is special. Then, at least, I'll have friends and loved ones and special stuff.


I really, really, really hate my first wife, but without her I wouldn't have my daughter. Life just wouldn't be as special without her.

[Disneykat]

I think that you need to remember that you need to depend on yourself. You also need to love yourself and forgive yourself for the mistakes you have made. We all make them.

Don't let your spouse change you. They should love and accept you for who you are, quirks and all!!! Both of you need to understand that you will grow and change throughout the relationship to some extent. I have learned that just because a guy is sweet and loving in the beginning doesn't mean he will always stay that way. i learned that with #2!!! He was PERFECT!!! Then once we were married he convinced me that my friends didn't care that they only were out to get info on me to give to ex #1 and i literally cut off all my friends...he was all I had...wait him, his family, my family to a very small extent and my best friend. he never wanted to get together with my family or friends and he HATED that i loved working at the church. So much so that he had me convinced that staying home and being a housewife was a full time job.....NO KIDS mind you...yea and if I slacked off and was not June Cleaver and did not serve him a hot meal....and I mean SERVE him...put the food on the plate and take it to him to eat....yea well!!!! He also REFUSED to go to Disneyland with me because he said I had gone there too many times with my ex and another ex-bf. He also hated everythign I loved....music, youth ministry, etc etc Wat the heck was I thinking??? I'm still wondering, myself.

I'm not the type that would be so easily manipulated...So I have NO CLUE how I allowed myself to be treated like that. NEVER AGAIN!!!!! I'm a Queen and I deserve to be treated like one.

[SCUBAbe]

I was married for a little over a year...long enough that I couldn't get an anullment ...it was a messy divorce...not fighting over stuff wise...(I let him have everything.)...but since he was crazy...seriously crazy...I had to get restraining order and the police were called many times...after he tried to blow our house up he was taken to a mental hospital for 3 days. Unfortuantly he wasn't crazy enough to keep there, but they said he had deep seeded problems that he should get therapy for.....as far as I know he never went...