Relationship Deal-Breakers

[BassBone]

So let's say you meet another person who interests you at a club or work or school or wherever. You strike up a conversation and you and he or she are really hitting it off. You share interests, you like the same movies, you laugh at her or his jokes, you drink the same brand of beer, etc... Along comes one thing that is an immediate turn-off, enough that you say you are going back away and would prefer that he or she didn't follow you. What is that thing? (All this is in a romantic context, not friendship, etc.)

With me it might be smoking. Not only have I always considered it kind of icky, but I am mildly allergic to cigarette smoke (not cigar or pipe smoke, but cigarette). Smoking is just not something I think I could tolerate in a significant other. I have friends that smoke and I don't mind that they do as long as they don't blow it in my face, but I don't think that's something I could deal with in a girlfriend. So what's yours?

[PrincessY]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

Definitely smoking. My dad died of lung cancer complications and I won't go though that again if I can help it.

Plus it is just disgusting to be around. IMHO.

[ksejr1]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

someone without a sense of humor, i cant be with someone who can not make me laugh

[steamboatpete]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

It's a moot point for me now, but back when it mattered....

1. Being GUD or having just relocated from a GUD place from which her family did not join her.
2. Illegal drug use
3. Loyalties to UCLA

[BassBone]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

Gud?

[SCUBAbe]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

an over confident personality, especially when it seemed forced...also if they addressed their friends as dude and did that nose in the air thing for "what's up"....I hate that.

teeth, yellow or really crooked.

[knittingknerd]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

-Primping. I don't want a guy who is girlier/takes longer to get ready than I do.
-taking oneself too seriously. I am so not that way and make fun of myself sooooo much and if a guy does that... dude.

[tiggerfan]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

I assume it goes without saying that they have to at least accept the Disney thing.

[Trekkie Dad]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

Definitely smoking. Cooled a possible relationship in college because she smoked. And it wasn't just the cigarettes. (But that was in the sixties.)

[SCUBAbe]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

I assume it goes without saying that they have to at least accept the Disney thing.

that's a non issue for me as long as they don't mind me going. My Bf will not go to Disneyland with me. He doesn't like it at all. He went once when he was 8, in the 60's. He did say he would go to epcot one day.

[Spidergrrrl]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

Gud?

I'm wondering what that is, myself.

Turn offs for me:
1) smoking
2) chauvinism/being patronizing or condescending
3) someone who takes himself too seriously

[larasound]

[DLandFansAZ]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

Simple answer for me, closed minded people. If you can't accept people for who they are then "be gone." Hold on, did I just contradict myself? If I don't like closed minded people because they don't accept people for who they are then I should accept these people for who they are. Who cares I still don't like them.

Seriously though, dating a person that was closed minded would cause me to walk away. Heck if I was closed minded I would loose probably half of my friends.

[Sully]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

How they treat people in the service industry such as waiters, doormen, etc.

If they treat them like "the hired help" I'd kick 'em to the curb.

[Druggas]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

GUD= geographically undesirable.

A touch of syphilis is usually a turn off to me.

[sunnygirl]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

For me it's 2 things:

1. Closed minded-ness. I couldn't be with someone who can't see past their own way of life and living.

2. Over sensitivity. I have an "off color" sense of humor on my best of days. You have to be a little thick skinned to stick by my side.

Luckily, the man I'm going to spend the rest of my life with is not only open minded, but also just the perfect amount of sensitive. :love:

[Spidergrrrl]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

GUD= geographically undesirable.

A touch of syphilis is usually a turn off to me.

Oh - thanks for clearing that up for me, Druggas.

[QuietViolet]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

I'd have to say
1. Illegal drug users/smokers
2. Close-minded people
3. Stubborn-ness... I am all about compromise and I CANT STAND people who always have to have their own way. I like to coexist peacefully.

[larasound]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

A touch of syphilis is usually a turn off to me.

Full blown is acceptable?

[RooBear]

Re: Relationship Deal-Breakers

1. Illegal drug use
2. Stupidity
3. Can't read and is unwilling to learn
4. No shoes
5. No car
6. Which usually means: No job.
7. It's a woman. Sorry, I'm gay. Tend to go with that.

Yeah, makes me sound high on the horse and all, but the list was developed after my first marriage.

And the barefoot and can you drive me everyplace outside of a job interview was really piece-du-resistance!

Peace,
Roo