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  • Men- younger or older-

    (also inspired by the Lost Boys lounge)

    Personally- I don't do younger- been there, regretted it. I prefer men who are older than I am by at least a year or two- preferably more. I'm 33- at this point I would go to 45 top range.

    When I was in my early 20's I played with boys who were 18- really stupid times those, for me anyway.

    Maybe it's cause I am a mom- younger guys just don't do anything for me.

    Girls? How about you?

  • #2
    My husband is a year and a half older than me. When I was in High School, my boyfriend was 3 years older than me which was a BIG difference at that age. I don't reccommend that for anyone else, but it was good for me!

    I think that women who are middle aged and single could have a LOT of fun with an younger man but probably not for anything serious.

    I think most of the time people who are relatively close in age have the most in common.
    �In a world filled with hate, we must still dare to hope. In a world filled with anger, we must still dare to comfort. In a world filled with despair, we must still dare to dream. And in a world filled with distrust, we must still dare to believe.� -Michael Jackson


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    • #3
      I must admit I go for younger guys... legal ones, of course!!!
      Not that I'd turn down an older one! :lol:
      Good morning, son
      In twenty years from now
      Maybe we'll both sit down and have a few beers
      And I can tell you 'bout today
      And how I picked you up and everything changed
      It was pain
      Sunny days and rain
      I knew you'd feel the same things...


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      • #4
        Usually for me, it's older. I just like em better that way.
        Looking for the truth about giraffes? http://www.menacinggiraffes.blogspot.com/

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        • #5
          For dating, relationships and miscellaneous messing around - same age or older.
          For staring at, making fun of and miscellaneous messing around - younger.

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          • #6
            I always dated younger men during the years I was raising my kids...I didn't involve my kids with any of the guys I dated...my dating life and home life were kept separate. I wasn't looking for anything serious and the guys my age just didn't like the same things I liked...dancing, socializing, parties, sex (more than once or twice a week), etc. (When I say parties, I don't mean frat parties)

            My first husband (the father of my kids) was 2 years younger than I...huge mistake...I was 20 and he was 18 when we married. That lasted 6 years, only because I had kids with him and kept trying to make it work. My 2nd husband (one I'm currently in the midst of divorce with) was 7 years younger than me...I thought we'd be okay because he'd been married for 16 years the first time and seemed to be on my level emotionally/maturity-wise/communication, etc. We see how that turned out.

            In the past 18 years, I've only dated 2 men who were either older or the same age as I and they were generally 'stick in the muds'...guess that's why I've been drawn to the younger guys...they seemed to be able to keep up with me better than the ones my age.
            We don't stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing.
            -------------------------------------
            Vows are spoken
            To be broken
            Feelings are intense
            Words are trivial
            Pleasures remain
            So does the pain
            Words are meaningless
            And forgettable

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            • #7
              Originally posted by femmdraven
              I always dated younger men during the years I was raising my kids...I didn't involve my kids with any of the guys I dated...my dating life and home life were kept separate. I wasn't looking for anything serious and the guys my age just didn't like the same things I liked...dancing, socializing, parties, sex (more than once or twice a week), etc. (When I say parties, I don't mean frat parties)
              Given that at this point I am looking for something lasting and serious (well, not actively looking but more like hoping-looking is a mistake) I am looking at older.

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              • #8
                Originally posted by Nephythys
                Given that at this point I am looking for something lasting and serious (well, not actively looking but more like hoping-looking is a mistake) I am looking at older.
                Me too...(not actively looking, but hopeful). Only problem is, the older they are, the more baggage they carry. My soon-to-be-ex is dragging around a semi-truck. And now, because of a 2nd failed marriage, my wounds are much deeper than they were. I'm going to counseling and hopeful that I'll be able to walk away from this with as little damage as possible. I don't want to be 'ruined' because of a failed relationship/marriage.

                And that photo I posted yesterday, of myself when I was thin...I was 35 in that photo. I looked much younger than my actual age until I hit 40, so younger guys couldn't tell I was that much older than them. All the years of stress and tanning finally caught up with me.
                We don't stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing.
                -------------------------------------
                Vows are spoken
                To be broken
                Feelings are intense
                Words are trivial
                Pleasures remain
                So does the pain
                Words are meaningless
                And forgettable

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                • #9
                  Originally posted by femmdraven
                  Me too...(not actively looking, but hopeful). Only problem is, the older they are, the more baggage they carry. My soon-to-be-ex is dragging around a semi-truck. And now, because of a 2nd failed marriage, my wounds are much deeper than they were. I'm going to counseling and hopeful that I'll be able to walk away from this with as little damage as possible. I don't want to be 'ruined' because of a failed relationship/marriage.
                  Sadly, everybody, male or female, regardless of age, has baggage these days. My main rule for dating is this : NO EX WIVES. I had the sad misfortune of dating a man who still had something there with his ex wife, and after that, I vowed never again.
                  Looking for the truth about giraffes? http://www.menacinggiraffes.blogspot.com/

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                  • #10
                    Originally posted by sunnygirl
                    My main rule for dating is this : NO EX WIVES.
                    That's a good rule, except I have to wonder what's wrong with a guy who's in his 40's, that hasn't been able to commit to a long-term relationship. My ex-boyfriend before the most recent husband is a perfect example of that...great guy, but has intimacy issues and has never been married. He's one of the ones who was my age and at the time, seemed a good match, but after a few months of dating, it became evident why he'd never been married or even lived with a woman for that matter.
                    We don't stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing.
                    -------------------------------------
                    Vows are spoken
                    To be broken
                    Feelings are intense
                    Words are trivial
                    Pleasures remain
                    So does the pain
                    Words are meaningless
                    And forgettable

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                    • #11
                      Originally posted by femmdraven
                      That's a good rule, except I have to wonder what's wrong with a guy who's in his 40's, that hasn't been able to commit to a long-term relationship. My ex-boyfriend before the most recent husband is a perfect example of that...great guy, but has intimacy issues and has never been married. He's one of the ones who was my age and at the time, seemed a good match, but after a few months of dating, it became evident why he'd never been married or even lived with a woman for that matter.
                      Good point, but my own experience has left me rather traumatized when it comes to exes in general. :o Wouldn't it be awesome if all exes just magically disappeared once you meet a guy?
                      Looking for the truth about giraffes? http://www.menacinggiraffes.blogspot.com/

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                      • #12
                        Originally posted by sunnygirl
                        Sadly, everybody, male or female, regardless of age, has baggage these days. My main rule for dating is this : NO EX WIVES. I had the sad misfortune of dating a man who still had something there with his ex wife, and after that, I vowed never again.
                        I agree- but I am right now facing a guy who has never made a serious commitment to a woman in his life. Never been married, might have been engaged once, but did not go through with it. He puts everything off, and admits that he often turns away from good things in his life because he is sure there is something better.

                        I would almost rather he had an ex-wife than a fear of commitment.

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                        • #13
                          Originally posted by sunnygirl
                          Wouldn't it be awesome if all exes just magically disappeared once you meet a guy?
                          What would be even more awesome is if you could have the hurt and damage removed from your brain, but keep the knowledge (lesson you learned) for future use. I want them to invent a pill for that
                          We don't stop playing because we grow old; We grow old because we stop playing.
                          -------------------------------------
                          Vows are spoken
                          To be broken
                          Feelings are intense
                          Words are trivial
                          Pleasures remain
                          So does the pain
                          Words are meaningless
                          And forgettable

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                          • #14
                            Originally posted by Nephythys
                            I would almost rather he had an ex-wife than a fear of commitment.
                            I know I'm warped, but a guy can't sleep with his fear of commitment the way he could an ex.
                            Looking for the truth about giraffes? http://www.menacinggiraffes.blogspot.com/

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                            • #15
                              Originally posted by femmdraven
                              What would be even more awesome is if you could have the hurt and damage removed from your brain, but keep the knowledge (lesson you learned) for future use. I want them to invent a pill for that
                              :bow: :bow:
                              Looking for the truth about giraffes? http://www.menacinggiraffes.blogspot.com/

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